Whatever tools we use, we want to make agreements in which people learn together what they need to learn in the most open and secure way possible. It can be very helpful to keep a sheet in which you take common notes on the next steps or tasks that come from the meeting. Sometimes we do it in three (or four) columns: one for those who perform the next step or the next task (it could be an individual or a group), what they will do, until when they have done it, and the priority level of the task (1-3, 1-5). You can finish the meeting by checking this sheet and filling in the missing details. You can also start your meetings by registering with the previous meeting sheet. The real power of agreements is that everyone has the opportunity to contribute, that they have listened to and responded to their personal needs in general, and that they feel safer now. Many people don`t get it: agreements are primarily a matter of safety, not police behavior. For this reason, it never works to use another`s chords. NOTE: There are a few community agreements that are often addressed to participants that we do not use or do not bring. Two of the most common are “accepting the best intentions” and “trusting the norm.” The reason we don`t use it is that if someone is not able to do it (they say they don`t feel familiar, or unsure), with a community agreement that tells them to do so, nothing will change. These agreements are not always realistic, especially if we take into account the fact that when people have been harmed by sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, classicism, they/we build the tools necessary to support ourselves and protect ourselves. The agreements we propose instead, which capture the spirit of these encounters, are “we cannot be articulated all the time”, “to be generous with each other” or “it is a space to learn.” Trust the group! After all, these agreements are for them.
Anything proposed will add important content to the conversation that will reveal the needs and characters of the people in the group. Whether you start with a list of proposals or half ask a group to create its own agreements, you`ll find out what works for the group. And if I am a participant, here are some guidelines that I could personally propose to create the conditions for good cooperation. Other ways to establish group agreements may be more appropriate for shorter meetings or workshops or for groups that do not deal with emotional or controversial topics. This includes: Below you will find some community agreements that can be useful at meetings. Not all will be useful for each group, depending on the culture and preferences of the group and individuals within the group. (Some of them have been developed/adapted by AORTA, others have been exploited over time in our wider galaxy by teammates of ease. The key question posed by a group of agreements is: whether you are a mediator at meetings in which you participate, setting up your mediation skills will help you make your meetings better, more inclusive and completely more democratic! Here are some basic tips and suggestions that can have a big impact on your meetings. On the other hand, group chords in a very short time can help you create a group`s culture, and at the same time, by doing your moderator work, you can show people how safe you feel. Keep the agreement for use in future meetings or workshops with the same group, but register each time to make sure everyone is always satisfied. You can, for example, add something to the agreement. Last year, we worked with a group of computer experts who, for the first time, were overwhelmed by the use of group contracts with a group.